Tuesday, November 4, 2014

Being Commited



One of my fellow young boys as he was studying his plus one class, said he wanted to be an Engineer. I said good keep going and work hard. Few days since then he was telling his mom that I want to be a Teacher.  I was irritated and I interrupted what the hell makes you say this. Last time you were saying that you wanted to be an Engineer and now you wanted to be a Teacher. Hopefully after few weeks after you will not tell you want to be a cowboy I said.
Haha… He laughed and replied uncle our ambition changes with how well the Teacher inspires us by teaching. If they teach well we dream high but if they don’t we change our ambitions. I could make out that either his Mathematics or Physics teacher was not keeping things right.
I thought for a while and realize he has statement to make. May be he is right. How can those young futures of Nation dream high if they do not understand well what is taught in the class. So I wanted to find a solution for this problem. Indeed very severe problem that would decide not only his future but of all those who feel the same way. How would I get an answer for this?
 I thought for a while and got and perfect solution for this problem. And the answer is COMMITTEMENT. Let me explain you more with a real example,
There is a friend of mine, indeed a great friend who belonged to a poor family background. He could not do his secondary education as he had so many family pressures and also he was not among a brilliant student of a class. He could not continue with private expenses too. I guess you already got the reason why he could not do so. He had no choice but to quit and see what he can do to sustain his life and support his family with all he could. So he came to the capital city in search of a job. It was his most difficult phase of life but he luckily found a very small job at the end.
Although small and less paid job he was happy because he had no other choice than to take, so he accepted it readily without any hesitation. I used to see him hardly once a year as I was studying far away in the other part of the country. Yet whenever I came there I could see him working whole-heartedly and very committed to his job.
O…I forgot to tell you what job he had there. He was employed in a book store as a sale boy. I know I need not have to elaborate more regarding his salary and other difficulties he had. But yet he worked hard and despite hard situation he kept on with all his abilities, working for extra hours and meeting his needs. He worked there for few years and by then he had learned all basic amenities, he developed all the skills and kept good contacts with all dealers. After that he mutually resigned form his job and with his little savings that he had, he opened his own book store and if I am not wrong he sold books worth highest amount during the book fair for two consecutive years. I guess he will do it again and again. And toady he looks after all his family and relatives too. He also owns his own car.
Here my intention is not to make his enterprise popular. I already told you his is the highest seller for two consecutive years.  He is well established by now. But I want you to realize how a young man without much qualification could do so well in life. He didn’t have a good job either. But how could he bring all these changes in life. I have seen people having good jobs yet are failures in life. They have nice pay scale but they land up becoming failures. And others those who have dreams of becoming great personalities land up becoming failures.
So the very reason is lack of commitment makes you lose focus in what you do. Once you have a target or a goal you should set your mind and be committed and if you are truly committed then there is no question that you won’t achieve them. But commitment doesn’t mean you be committed for a while and stop after that. You must have it forever with you and being committed is one of the best qualities for everything you do.
Commitment doesn’t just mean for work you do or for studies to fulfill your dreams that you and your parents have. It comes for everything. Even in your day to day life. There are hundreds of divorce cases happening and the number is increasing each year if we really go by the figures. Why is this happening? We talk of so many great things in life. We criticize people we don’t like and debate for no cause in each expect of life. We give so many reasons why that political party is good or bad. We justify so much works what others do and tell ways where it could have been better than the way it is. Likewise we go on and on. But at night when we return home we quarrel with people within the house. Father with mother, husband with wife, son and daughter with parents. We have no peace at home. A home where we expect god reside there. But when you yourself can’t settle problems within your family how can you expect god to come and be at your altars and bless us with wealth, happiness and peace. He may be ashamed to be there seeing you fighting with each other. Although we call ourselves human but most people have forgotten human values. Most of us have lost humanity. All sorts of divorces happen when one is not committed with the person whom we have to. It happens when you start feeling less secure with that person and feel more with someone else or alone. Problems, misunderstandings come but it all matters the way you deal with.  A parrot can be trained how to talk but we can’t understand ourselves or make the other person to understand what is wrong so big issues arise from small wounds that leaves a deep cut which even if it is treated the scars remains forever. Now my question here is, what do we get after all this?

The answer is pain, sufferings, struggles and we ruin the future of our kids who otherwise could have studied well in schools. The other installments we get are we become that chapter for many people, which they will memorize so well by sharing and jeering from your back. You have nothing to gain and more to lose. Now how can we get away from such hurdles of life and live a better life? The choice is all yours. It all depends on how you choose and whom you choose to be. May be before marrying it’s important to know that person so well, his likes, dislikes and the life he wishes to live. Once you are married if you think this and if it doesn’t match yours there is no meaning in regretting. Either you change for the person or you change them. If you fail in doing so it may be too late for you to regret. Power, money, and attitude are all temporary sources. What is the use if you have so much money but no happiness in life? 
Be committed for everything 
Cheers..... 

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